*~ a repost from my old blog because I needed the reminder ~*
I am a bit of a Dr Phil fan. I rarely watch the show, but I have read his early book....
What stood out for me was the fact that if you keep doing something that you 'know' you should not do there must be a 'pay off' for you. A real or perceived benefit in that behaviour.
In the past I had perceived benefits for staying fat. I thought that staying fat would keep me single which in turn would stop me getting hurt. When exposed to the light of logic these 'benefits' dissolved. Obviously fat people get into happy relationships. And of course being lonely hurts a lot more than the hypothetical situation of being dumped or cheated on.
But obviously there are still benefits for me. Otherwise I would have changed my behaviour.
So what are they?
Here is a bit of a brain dump, I am curious as to what will appear:
None of these come close to outweighing the benefits of being slim.... why don't I give slim a trial run? I can always get fat again if I hate being slim!
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It's funny you should mention the payoff for being overweight. I bought Michelle Bridges book Crunch Time today and she suggests the making of a payoff list as well. Everything that appeared on your list also appeared on mine and you are absolutely right, nothing in the payoffs can outweigh the benefits of being fit and healthy.
Thank you for sharing your list, it makes me realise i'm not the only person who thinks that way from time to time.
My list of pay-offs is HUGE and I have a very strong resistance to getting slim because of the emotional attachments to my perceived pay-offs. I've been working on this for many years... identiifying what my pay-off are has been a huge job for me. I wish there were a greater awareness of this. Most people believe it's simply "food in" -vs- "energy output". If only!!
Keep up the self discovery (*_*)
Great post! As I was reading I was thinking...what are your excuses Diz?? I'm going to have to do a brain dump of my own and explore my own reasons for being "resistant" to losing. Thanks!
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